COLUMBIA — During a late-September afternoon, Ana Gutierrez-Gamez walked across Lowry Mall talking to her mother on the phone. The MU freshman’s mother does not speak English, so Gutierrez-Gamez spoke to her in Spanish.
A young woman she did not know approached. “You need to speak English — you’re in America now,” she said before walking off.
Gutierrez-Gamez, who had started attending MU a month earlier, was shocked. She walked to Gillett Hall holding in her emotions. But once she reached her dorm room, she burst into tears.
“I couldn’t believe someone would be that rude to me,” Gutierrez-Gamez said of the incident.
This was a private incident. Recently, public incidents involving race occurred on U.S. campuses, including the Compton Cookout at the University of California-San Diego and Mug Night at Vassar College in Poughkeepsie, N.Y. Both incidents stereotyped African-Americans. At MU, a February incident in which cotton balls were scattered in front of the Gaines/Oldham Black Culture Center brought conversations about racism to a campuswide level.
Racism is hard to talk about. On Monday evening, KBIA/91.3 FM and the Reynolds Journalism Institute held a forum on race and diversity in mid-Missouri for the weekly show "Intersection" to provide a medium to have this difficult discussion. Half of the hour-long show ran live on the radio, and the entire program is expected to be available online Tuesday at kbia.org.
Panel member Marie Glaze, human rights specialist for Columbia, described attempting to talk about race as a closed feeling you get in your throat. "When you start having this unvarnished discussion, it roils your insides," Glaze said.
Audience member Suzanne Burgoyne, a member of Difficult Dialogues, a program designed to help educators facilitate open-minded discussion, said a conversation about race is needed without oppressing others. A co-founder of the MU Interactive Theatre Troupe, Burgoyne described attending a theater conference at which there was bickering about who was truly oppressed.
"I was unhappy because everyone at the conference was competing for who's the most oppressed," said Burgoyne, one of about 50 people who attended the live-taping at the Reynolds Journalism Institute.
Gutierrez-Gamez, who along with others in this article shared their stories at different times, said she doesn't feel anyone is left off the conversation about race, even though it often centers on black-white relations.
“We (minority organizations) all agree even though we’re separated by race, we all have the same issues," said Gutierrez-Gamez, a member of the MU Hispanic American Leadership Organization.
Passions cloud the discussion
The 1977 TV miniseries "Roots" received wide acclaim, numerous awards and high ratings. The Museum of Broadcast Communications said "Roots" was credited with having a positive impact on race relations.
Not for Arnel Monroe, who was a fourth-grader at the time. For him, it was “one of the worse weeks of my life.”
Before "Roots," the Columbia teacher said he never viewed being black as something different. His world of church, neighbors, friends and schoolmates was black.
Since then, Monroe has used athletics and education to help him connect with others who were not African-American. His pursuit to play football and get an education took him to the University of Central Missouri in Warrensburg from 1986 to 1991.
“The town was trying to get progressively better but still had some issues,” Monroe said. He recalled more open use of the n-word, something he rarely ran into growing up in Columbia.
Now a special education teacher at Hickman High School, Monroe thinks Columbia continues to be a progressive city as it grows in population.
“We have issues we have to discuss and work out, but we’re not afraid to work them out,” he said.
However, plenty of events in U.S. history can be a barrier to discussions about race: treatment of Native Americans by the early settlers, the Civil Rights Movement of the 1950s and '60s and current racial tensions developing from the illegal immigration debate.
Monroe said people must “leave feelings at the door” when talking about race because they get in the way of communication.
“There’s never going to be a sustained dialogue for too long because it draws too many feelings," Monroe said. "Race is one of those subjects that makes everyone uncomfortable.”
How to handle racial dialogues
Yve Solbrekken, a science education doctoral student at MU, has experience with helping others engage in a conversation about race as a former fellow of Difficult Dialogues. Race has long interested her. She described herself as a sensitive kid when it came to those suffering, including suffering because of racism.
“I’m troubled when people approach each other with preconceived notions because of race,” said Solbrekken, who is white.
In grade school, she had a friend named Melody, a member of a Native American tribe. The other children use to call Melody “ape face” because of their perception of her features. Solbrekken said she could not understand the mentality of her classmates.
“As a member of this human race, it’s maybe an obligation, but at the very least, it’s the right thing to do to intervene,” she said.
Solbrekken and Gutierrez-Gamez, a Mexican native who grew up in Sikeston, have some ideas about how to make dialogues on race work:
- Take a deep breath. When offense is taken, tell the person you’re not sure if you’re understanding them correctly and say what you think they’re saying, Solbrekken said.
- Don’t be afraid to speak your mind. If you’re included in the conversation, it’s because others want to hear what you have to say, Gutierrez-Gamez said.
- Keep emotions in check. “I can see
why it could be intimidating," Gutierrez-Gamez said about talking about race with people from other backgrounds.
- Try again. Solbrekken likes the idea of do-overs. “Let them
rephrase, gather their thoughts and try again,” she recommended.
Education is key
“In academia, our purpose is to facilitate discussion about everything,” Solbrekken said. To reach the goal of limiting racial misunderstandings, education will have to play a role.
Some have felt that MU could do a better job of facilitating discussion. At a town hall meeting a few days after the cotton ball incident, requiring a diversity class at MU was a main topic of conversation. It was a renewed debate publicly, but the work concerning the recommendation has been going on behind the scenes for several years.
Monroe said teaching about diversity is important. “If we’re going to talk about America as a melting pot, we need to talk about all aspects of the pot,” Monroe said. “We need to celebrate all things that makes us America.”
During the "Intersection" taping, panel member MU Chief Diversity Officer Roger Worthington talked about how his mother was steered away from her Latino heritage when she attended school. What she experienced affected how she raised Worthington.
"My mom purposefully avoided teaching me Spanish because she viewed it as a determinant," Worthington said. His experiences helped lead him to his career of improving diversity on campus.
*Fellow panel member Nathan Stephens, director of the Gaines/Oldham Black Culture Center, said a true litmus test of diversity is not in the casual events like playing sports or working together. "But when it comes to real intimate issues such as 'can my daughter date your son or vice-versa?' That is when the issue gets sticky for most of us," Stephens said.
He said this is evident in the 2005 Campus Climate Survey where a lot of people were willing to be "friends or work together" but not be roommates with people who were "different" than they were because that was an intimate setting.
“We ought to change the way we socialize our children racially and otherwise,” Monroe said.
Lisa White, new president of the MU Legion of Black Collegians, agrees. She is used to being a minority in communities in which the majority is white. White went to private school until she went to Hazelwood Central High School in St. Louis. She was able to have both white and black friends, which she said helped her socialize when she came to MU.
“It equipped me for some of the things I wouldn’t have been ready for coming to college,” White said.
But she and Gutierrez-Gamez have found that at a university where 80 percent of the students are white, a lot of students tend to stick together by race.
“College has the ability to still shelter you from reality,” White said.
As the president of the Legion of Black Collegians, White’s job is to serve as a voice for African-American students on campus and air their issues and concerns. When asked why she is active in making that voice heard, White thought carefully before answering.
“If no one else will take up the responsibility," she said, "I will.”