Lessons love: Show kindness to everyone

Tuesday, February 14, 2012 | 6:00 a.m. CST

The Missourian interviewed 10 senior citizens with more than 400 combined years of marriage among them, and we've compiled a list of the 10 tips they shared. Read all 10 lessons in a single story.

7. Show kindness to everyone

Men were scarce when Marilyn Arrington was studying fine arts in college because many of them were overseas for World War II. She first met her husband, Gerald, at a little restaurant they both frequented when he was studying to be a dentist and she was teaching art and music classes after the war.

The couple was married for 47 years until Gerry died. Arrington said the most important aspect of relationships is kindness.

“I think kindness to each other no matter what, that was the basic,” Arrington said.

She and her husband worked to instill the concept of the golden rule in their three boys.

"You want people to be kind to you, and you return that kindness," she said. "And it worked. They respected everyone."

As a teacher, Arrington passed on the same advice to her students.

Arrington said she lived by the golden rule her whole life and practiced it in her marriage. "It's a good one," she said.

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