Lessons on love: Columbia residents share lifetimes of wisdom

Tuesday, February 14, 2012 | 6:00 a.m. CST; updated 5:23 p.m. CST, Tuesday, February 14, 2012

COLUMBIA — There are plenty of relationship experts, counselors and magazine articles out there offering advice about love — especially around Valentine's Day. 

At the Missourian, we decided to bypass the science, stats and "expert" opinions behind what makes relationships work and instead talk to the real experts — those who have actually done it.

After interviewing 10 residents with more than 400 combined years of marriage among them, we've compiled a list of the 10 tips they shared. We hope the advice is useful no matter what your relationship status. 

Consider it our Valentine's Day gift to you.

  1. Take a canoe trip together.
  2. Divide the labor.
  3. Leave work at work.
  4. Balance each other out.
  5. Encourage each other's talents.
  6. Don't rush into a relationship.
  7. Show kindness to everyone.
  8. Be prepared to work hard.
  9. Demonstrate compassion.
  10. Love like crazy.

Read all 10 lessons in a single story.

Feel like giving back? Share your own advice. What lessons on love have you learned? Share them in the comment section below the story.

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Michael Williams February 14, 2012 | 9:01 a.m.

"Take a canoe trip together" is good advice, so long as you're not in the same canoe.

Hire out all wallpapering. Wallpapering together never works. Ever.

Whoever is driving controls the radio.

Never leave the toilet paper roll empty.

Finally, never snicker under the covers when spouse falls in the toilet because you forgot to put the lid down.

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mike mentor February 14, 2012 | 9:49 a.m.

I'm with you Michael. Canoe/camping and wallpapapering are two of tests you can use to see if it's real. If you can do these things harmoniously, you have a good shot...

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hank ottinger February 14, 2012 | 10:15 a.m.

Never go to bed angry.

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