COLUMBIA — Some women are born to be grandmothers. They can’t wait for their children to have babies so they can bundle them up, take them home and start all over again.
They never have an empty nest. As fast as one child is walking out the door another one is being brought in. Diapers are never discarded; they are merely folded away in wait for the next bottom to cover.
The fact that each grandchild represents a new generation is never a consideration until the first crisis hits. Then, before long, it’s a totally new experience, and children aren’t what they used to be.
Nothing is more distressing than watching grandparents trying to cope with new realities. A new neighbor taking in her daughter’s four children after the daughter has been arrested for drug possession is definitely a sight for sore eyes. Learning to be a grandmother in the 21st century is quite a challenge.
Nevertheless, some people are determined to dive in the water and try to swim for shore. Two-family households are becoming more common as more children and grandchildren are moving back home to try to make ends meet.
Fortunately, many communities are setting up self-help groups to provide resources to assist families who need help. In many towns and cities, the drug problems seem to be escalating, but by and large law enforcement in some areas appear to be more sophisticated in handling offenders.
It will only be when the public decides to really get involved will we see the end to many of our social dilemmas. Every household needs to be accountable and commit itself to taking a stand to help rid this country of dangerous drugs. They are ruining the lives of generations of children and an end needs to be put to this scourge.
Ultimately, some of us are going to have to take the initiative to put responsibility in the same space as freedom when it comes to good citizenship. We‘re going to have to get serious about education. We have to stop playing around with educational theories and get back to teaching children how to become responsible adults.
We’re going to have to get serious about demanding that our politicians become more responsible in handling our government. As the world becomes more dangerous we have to become more sober and more resolved to looking for solutions to problems.
If women are going to be good grandmothers they need to get tough about being good mothers. One way to do that is to deal with our social problems. Let’s try to make a better world.
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