Eileen Hargraves enjoyed spending time with family

Tuesday, August 27, 2013 | 10:12 p.m. CDT; updated 10:28 p.m. CDT, Tuesday, August 27, 2013

COLUMBIA — After her husband died when her daughter was 2 years old, Eileen Hargraves spent time with her daughter and her mother despite working to provide money for her child.

They often watched movies at a theater a block and a half from their home, occasionally seeing double features.

"I admire her for the position that she was put in," said her daughter, Kathleen Ennis. "She handled it with gusto."

Eileen Hargraves of Columbia died Monday, Aug. 26, 2013. She was 90.

She was born Dec. 28, 1922, in St. Louis to Leo and Mahaley (Haferkamp) Haupt.

She married Austin Hargraves in 1945.

Mrs. Hargraves often spent time with Ennis' children when they all lived in St. Louis.

On one occasion, she brought her then-5-year-old grandson, Kraig, on the Highland Fling at Six Flags, Ennis said.

"She smiled and had a good time," Ennis said. "My son threw up on the spot."

In 1975, Ennis and her family moved to Columbia after her husband got a job there. Mrs. Hargraves traveled to visit them, driving or sometimes taking a Greyhound bus.

In 2004, she moved to Columbia to be closer to Ennis' family, despite being active in her community in St. Louis.

Mrs. Hargraves attended the Columbia Senior Center at least twice a week, where she played bridge and belonged to a singing group. She loved playing cards, and she taught her grandchildren how to play.

"She loved Frank Sinatra to death," Ennis said. "She was a teenager when Frank Sinatra was a heartthrob."

Before Mrs. Hargraves died, she left a quote by Laura Ingalls Wilder for her daughter to read at the memorial: "Remember me with smiles and laughter, for that is how I will remember you all. If you remember me with tears, then, don't remember me at all."

Mrs. Hargraves is survived by her daughter, Kathleen Ennis and her husband, Gary; two grandsons, Troy and Kraig Ennis; a granddaughter, Jessica Kirkpatrick and her husband, Robby; two great-grandaughters, Mahaley and Taylor Kirkpatrick; her niece, Elaine Campbell Borgshulte and her husband, Don; and several great- and great-great-nieces and nephews.

Her husband, Austin Hargraves; her sister, Dee Haupt Campbell; and her parents died earlier.

A private graveside service will be held Sept. 4 at Lake Charles Cemetery in St. Louis.

Memorial contributions can be left at The Bluffs, 3105 Bluff Creek Drive, Columbia, MO 65201.

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