Mary Kay Mueller

COLUMBIA — A knack for remembering dates and an ear for music were two of the things that set Mary Kay Mueller apart as a remarkable wife, mother and friend.

“She sent a card on every occasion,” said her husband, Phillip Mueller. “She always knew what to do and what to say. She made friends with anyone and kept the friendships and thought of people all the time.”

Mrs. Mueller of Columbia died Tuesday, Nov. 9, 2010. She was 65.

Mrs. Mueller was born June 28, 1945 in Silver Spring, Md.

She married her husband on June 8, 1968.

Mrs. Mueller majored in music at the University of Maryland and continued on to perform in dinner theaters before she was married.

“She was very talented in the music field," her husband said. "She was a singer.”

Mrs. Mueller went on to sing in a Broadway musical, "Mass," by Leonard Bernstein. She was in performances of the show at the John F. Kennedy Center in Washington, D.C.

“It was not a great success,” her husband laughed. “Unfortunately I had to see it two or three times."

"She had a mind of her own," he said of her performance. "She was in the chorus. I was very proud that she even made the cut."

After Mr. and Mrs. Mueller retired, they moved to Columbia, as her husband was an active MU alumni.

“I thought a college town would be a good place to retire," he said. "We thought it would be good.”

Mrs. Mueller was diagnosed with juvenile diabetes at the age of 8 and collected donations annually to help find cures for the disease. She also donated her time to many organizations. Mrs. Mueller volunteered with First Christian Church, Disciples of Christ, Meals on Wheels and The Wardrobe.

“Mary Kay has been active in Meals on Wheels for 14 to 15 years, every Monday," her husband said. "Her mother had done this work after she retired in Maryland, and then Mary Kay got the information from some friends through the church.”

Outside of her volunteer work, Mrs. Mueller kept up with her musical talents as long as possible.

“She sang solos in the church choir for a number of years, until she developed a vocal problem when she was about 45, which curtailed her singing," her husband said.

Mrs. Mueller's sons remember her with kind thoughts.

“She was a very caring person," said her son Victor Mueller. "She was very involved in the church.”

"She was just one of the sweetest and nicest persons in the world,” said his brother, Geoffrey Mueller. “She loved everybody, no matter what. And we loved her very much.”

Mrs. Mueller is survived by her husband; two sons, Geoffrey Mueller of Gaithersburg, Md., and Victor Mueller of New York; a brother, Donald Flinn of Frankfort, Ky.; a grandson; and several nephews.

Memorial services will be held at 2 p.m. Friday at First Christian Church, 101 N. Tenth St. A reception will follow.

Memorial contributions may be made to Meals on Wheels, 800 Hospital Drive, Columbia, MO, 65201-5275, or to the Juvenile Diabetes Association, 26 Broadway, 14th Floor, New York, NY, 10004, or online.

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